Sunday, October 16, 2005
over protectionalism.
this is for my good friend. she is totally in love with this guy till she dont realise what he did was too much.
when a person is overly controlling, it gives off the impression that you dont trust your girlfriend/boyfriend. if she wants to go out with her friends, then let her go. who are you to tell her that she's been going out too often? she has a dad and i'm sure thats more than enough. even her parents also never complain about her going out so often. she knows the way back and she knows how to take care of herself. she dont need someone else to advicing her on her every move, you are not so great yourself and why dont you take the time you spend pissing her off to catch up on your grades? the more you dont trust her and feel the need to control her, the more she has to lie to do things she wants causing you to mistrust her even more when you find out. and its so dumb to think that holding her back from going out with a bunch of her friends is going to help her not to cheat on you.
how could she fall in love with you? for one i have no idea how and why. people call it love, i presume. something that my friends and i can never understand but as friends we go all out to support her by advicing her again and again. but you couldnt think of a better way but to be an asshole..to call her friend, not only lying to her but lied to her friends. is this how u treat your love ones?
i really still dont get it why. i mean come on a boyfriend that loves his girlfriend will not do all this kinda things to her. a boyfriend will never make his girlfriend cry. do u know how much she actually cry for u? for one example, the tony and guy thing. i dont need to say it here. i think to some ppl they know what happened. but again, you dont have the rights to go all the way there and shout at her. she have her own pride too. even her parents did not say anything about what time she is going home and all. what seems to be a big problem then? its all because u dont trust her. u scared that she meets someone else better u. u scared that she will leave u one day for that person. is that it? maybe it is. if its not, then it wont be such a big problem getting her hair cut and dyed by this guy, its her hair for goodness sake. its her time! just let her do what she wants.
over protective doesnt mean that your a confident guy and all the girls like this kinda guys. your wrong. a girl likes a guy when the guy is confident and trust her alot. he wouldnt be asking her alot of questions and stopping her from going out from her friends. she needs her own space and freedom. its not like your married to her or anything. even married couples do not do that. when you're over protective, it really makes you look insecure and pathethic. deep inside, you know that girls like confident guys, and that being an asshole will make her like you less. but in this case, she is still young and you're taking advantage of it. and that might be the part of the reason why you feel like you need to be controlling, is that because girls cheat on pussies with confident manly men, and you dont want that to happen to you. why dont you be a better boyfriend? if you were a manly man, they wouldnt cheat on you with a pussy, you'd be everything they are looking for.
it seems like the only good thing that comes out from being controlling boyfriend is that you show you really care about her, or at least about not loosing her. unfortunately, there are much better ways to show her that you care for her. and everyone including her knows this. instead of showing her you care by getting mad at her when she goes out with her friends, or talking to a guy or taking a pic with another guy, why not get her something sweet like flowers or surprise her with gifts. or make her dinner.
i'm just saying that if you know she loves you, then be confident in that and trust her more instead of being an pussy asshole bitch. i dont care if you hate me after reading this but i'm just speaking the truth. i trusted you at first and i actually take u as a friend but u did this to me. its over the line.
zoe. outie at 9:20 AM
